The Course of 10,000 Days Mini-Retreat on March 15-16 in San Diego

Looking for a powerful, transformational, self-help program that blends both spiritual practices with New Age techniques? Join us on Friday-Saturday, March 15-16, 2013 at the beautiful Rancho Bernardo Inn located in San Diego, CA. The theme for The Course of 10,000 Days mini-retreat is: Live-Love-Legacy! The dynamic program will focus on helping you discover your life purpose, create a lasting legacy and develop your Life Success Action Plan! For registration information: www.10000Days.org

Finding True Happiness: Is It Possible?

by Tom Hinton

At a recent workshop, I was asked by a 51 year-old participant if he could ever find true happiness? My answer startled him as well as the other participants in the room. I said, “Probably not.” 

There was a nervous laughter and everyone waited for my next line. But I said nothing and started to move on to my next point. An anxious, almost desperate look filled the participants’ eyes as they looked at me hoping for a more elaborate, encouraging statement. I waited a long moment to let the uneasiness settle inside the pit of everyone’s stomach, and then I asked the all-important question. “Why are you asking me if true happiness is possible? Is that not your responsibility? Who is in control of your life right now? Is it me, or is it you?”  It was an ah-ha moment not only for many of the participants, but also myself. I realized that most people are dependent on someone else or something else for their happiness.

When you choose to be truly happy, that is when happiness begins. The primary reason someone is unhappy is because their approach to life is all wrong. We depend on someone else or something else for our happiness. In that case, you will never be truly happy. For the source of true happiness will not be found in riches, your ideal job or in the arms of another person. True happiness lies within each and every one of us. It requires us to move beyond life’s drudgery, impatience, bitterness and the negativity we experience every day; and, replace those moments with gratitude for life and the gifts you possess. When you choose to be happy, it is at that moment that true happiness begins.

So, is it possible to find true happiness? Yes, but it requires a different approach than the one most people use. It requires you to focus on those things that make you happy. It requires you to begin now if you want to be happy at this moment. You cannot be happy and irritated at the same time. You cannot be happy and hold grudges or withhold love from someone. You cannot be bitter and also claim to be happy. You cannot expect everything to go smoothly in life and when it doesn’t curse the world, but also claim to be happy 

Yes, you can have happy moments, but that is different from experiencing true happiness. True happiness occurs when you have peace of mind and your heart is filled with gratitude and love. True happiness is knowing that you are not dependent on anything or anyone else for your state of being. When we arrive at this point, we can begin to know true happiness. 

About the Author:  Tom Hinton is one of America’s most respected authors and speakers on Personal Growth, Work-Life Balance and Achieving Your Human Potential. He is the author of four books including: 10,000 Days: The Rest of Your Life, the Best of Your Life which is available on www.Amazon.com  For information, contact: tom@tomhinton.com

Moonrise Kingdom Offers Many Insights to Real Life Issues

I recently saw the new movie, Moonrise Kingdom, featuring Bill Murray and Bruce Willis. It's a funny plot involving two twelve-year olds who fall in love, make a secret pact to escape their boring lives, and run away into the wilderness of their beautiful summer island which is reminiscent of New England or the Puget Sound. As confused authorities and a troop of misguided boy scouts try to find them, the peaceful island community is turned upside down in more ways than anyone can imagine. It's a witty story about the underlying meaning of love, adult insanity, and the complexities of life even on a sparsely populated island. I think one moral of the story is this. No matter how far we try to run from reality and life's dramas, they always seems to be waiting for just around the bend. Let me know what you think.

Junior Seau Will Be Missed

The outpouring of sympathy and affection for the late Junior Seau, the talented former NFL player, who took his life at age 43, has been heartwarming for his family and the San Diego community where he was born and raised. Not only was Seau a great football player, but he was an outstanding role model for thousands of kids and a wonderful humanitarian. This is why so many fans were saddened and shocked to learn of his untimely death.

What makes Seau's death all the more tragic is that he had everything to live for. But, for reasons we'll never know, he ended his life after struggling with bouts of depression. Living simply became too hard for Junior.

The Course of 10,000 Days reminds us that life is very precious which is why it's essential that we understand our higher purpose and strive to live it everyday. When we lose hope and can no longer dream, life becomes a terrible burden; and, for some people, dying is an easier alternative rather than struggling to find meaning and purpose in one's life. Perhaps, this was the same difficult struggle Junior Seau faced after battling depression for so many years. He will be missed.

Work-Life Balance: How to Create Balance and Maintain Your Sanity in This Crazy, Competitive World

In 2007, I made a major transition. I stopped going to work. While I still had a job, employees to supervise and a business to manage, I made the strategic decision that I was going to regain control of my life and make time for the things I enjoy and me!

It was a difficult decision because it required me to start working smarter, but not harder. It also forced me to alter my mindset in terms of working from home and not commuting to an office every day. Perhaps, this was the most difficult part of my work-life balance transition. Also, I needed to learn how to use technology so I could work smarter and be more productive. I no longer could rely on walking down the hall to ask my staff of 20-somethings to answer my techie questions.

Studies tell us that nearly 76% of Americans are unhappy in their jobs. Perhaps this explains why so many people are unfulfilled and, therefore, unhappy with their work-life balance. But, not everyone can simply decide – as I did – to stop going to an office and work from home. And, frankly, not everyone would be happy working from home. There are many people who enjoy the workplace environment, the social interaction and the office politics. They feel connected and in the know.

So, how can you create a work-life balance that works for you? Here are 5 simple steps to help you. Some of these steps might appear trivial. But, take if from one who has done it… they work!

      1.  Identify the Top Ten Priorities in your personal life and on the job.  This step will help you identify what’s really important to you, personally and professionally.

         2.  Create a Work-Life Balance Schedule based on your top ten priorities.  The goal is not to accomplish all ten of your personal and professional priorities, but rather, adhere to a schedule that allows you to start tackling your top three or four – whatever you have the time and energy to do.

         3.  Stick to Your Schedule. If, for example, your top three personal life priorities are: (1) exercise 45 minutes daily, (2) spend quality time with your family each day, and (3) completing the New York Times Sunday edition crossword puzzle each week then these are must do priorities for you. The same holds true for your top three professional priorities, whatever you deem them to be. While you may not be able to accomplish all ten of your top priorities, schedule yourself according to what you can accomplish.  

         4.  Monitor Your Results. The best way to determine if you’re moving towards your goal of creating the proper work-life balance is to monitor your results.  Have a checklist on your computer and keep score everyday of your priorities. Check them off as you accomplish them each day.

        5.  Reward Your Success. Every week, reward yourself when you’ve achieved the work-life balance you’re seeking and your checklist is complete. Remember, it’s not about 100%; rather, you’re trying to move a little closer to your goal every week. Eventually, you’ll begin to see major changes in your attitude and behavior as you edge closer to the work-life balance you seek.

Ultimately, the greatest rewards you’ll realize will come in the form of personal satisfaction, wellness and a positive outlook on life and your job. These have been the results I’ve experienced and it only took me 6 months to reach that point. Now, I’m loving life because finally I’m in control of my life. Well, almost. Excuse me for a moment while I change the cat box and take out the garbage! 

About the Author.  Tom Hinton is the author of 10,000 Days: The Rest of Your Life, the Best of Your Life! now available at: www.Amazon.com  Tom is a popular speaker on Work-Life Balance and Personal Growth topics. He also facilitates The Course of 10,000 Days retreat workshops. Contact: tom@tomhinton.com

Why is it that Los Angeles Lakers' Ron Artest wears "World Peace" on the back of his jersey and then acts like a thug in front of thousands of spectators by sucker-punching his opponent in a basketball game last week? Shouldn't Artest practice what he preaches? The Course of 10,000 Days reminds us that walking our talk is very difficult. This is especially true on the playing field when the stakes are high and it's easy to lose our cool and take unfair advantage of an opponent. In Ron Artest's case, his ill-timed punch not only has landed him in trouble with the NBA, but it also discredits him in the eyes of all those fans who supported his efforts to champion world peace. While Artest might be a good basketball player, he is a very poor role model for "World Peace" because he lacks the courage, fortitude and common sense required to wear such a lofty label. Ron Artest should go back to wearing his own name on the back of his Lakers' jersey until he can measure up to a higher standard and champion the cause he purports to embrace. Hopefully, he will rebound.

Dalai Lama Brings a Message of Peace and Hope to America

by Tom Hinton

His Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama, Tenzin Gyatso, arrived in San Diego, California today and brought his simple, but powerful message of peace, hope and spiritual healing to thousands of people.

There is something both positive and serene about the 77 year-old spiritual leader of Tibet. His boyish smile and youthful energy hides his age and the many burdens he carries. Although he is a Buddhist, his love for all people shines through. His ability to forgive his enemies is profound. When the Dalai Lama was asked years ago how he could forgive the Chinese for invading his native country of Tibet and killing thousands of people, he simply replied, “It makes me feel better to forgive than to hate.”

There are many lessons we can learn from this gracious man regardless of our religious or political persuasions. Certainly, there is room in every heart for greater peace, understanding, forgiveness and love. This is his simple message and hope. How profound.

About the Author. Tom Hinton is the author of 10,000 Days: The Rest of Your Life, the Best of Your Life! Which is available at: www.Amazon.com Tom is a popular speaker on Work-Life Balance and Personal Growth topics. He also facilitates The Course of 10,000 Days retreat workshops. Contact: tom@tomhinton.com